What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.

The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is over. Pain may exist, but it is only pain. Suffering is what we add to pain.

The best defense against being hurt is to feel good about yourself and the way a person responds to you says more about them, than about you.

We turn pain into suffering by adding on all kinds of beliefs, interpretations and judgments to it.

It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.

When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply. When we can enter a relationship with our treasure house already open, there is no end to the wonders we can find, both within and between ourselves and another.

The sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.