From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

We create a mask to meet the masks of others. Then we wonder why we cannot love, and why we feel so alone.

Another simple and powerful way to dissolve problems is not to dwell upon the outcome of your actions. Instead, learn to value each action (no matter how small or large), to do it with complete attention. Your joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?

God's guiding hand, the guiding Voice, resting lightly upon us is best felt and heard when we are silent and still.

Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are. We receive the space in which to bloom. This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.