From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.

It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.

All the insight we will ever need to live well will come from fully being who and where we are.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

Unless we base our sense of identity upon the truth of who we are, it is impossible to attain true happiness.