From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.

We create a mask to meet the masks of others. Then we wonder why we cannot love, and why we feel so alone.

we learn the process of emptying out, cleaning house, both within and without.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.

We are what we think about. When we stay fixed on one person, thought or situation, we get caught in the grip of self-centered thoughts. The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.