We are what we think about. When we stay fixed on one person, thought or situation, we get caught in the grip of self-centered thoughts. The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we're headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.

God's guiding hand, the guiding Voice, resting lightly upon us is best felt and heard when we are silent and still.

What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.

When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are. We receive the space in which to bloom. This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.