It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.

In the Zen Way we focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally. One complete breath brings the next.

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.

A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we're headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.

In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.

What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.