Another simple and powerful way to dissolve problems is not to dwell upon the outcome of your actions. Instead, learn to value each action (no matter how small or large), to do it with complete attention. Your joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?

Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you 'should' become. Find out who you are right now.

Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.

we learn the process of emptying out, cleaning house, both within and without.

It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.

We turn pain into suffering by adding on all kinds of beliefs, interpretations and judgments to it.

What seems good turns bad, what seems bad turns good. It is an endless cycle.