All the insight we will ever need to live well will come from fully being who and where we are.

We turn pain into suffering by adding on all kinds of beliefs, interpretations and judgments to it.

Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.

We are what we think about. When we stay fixed on one person, thought or situation, we get caught in the grip of self-centered thoughts. The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.

When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply. When we can enter a relationship with our treasure house already open, there is no end to the wonders we can find, both within and between ourselves and another.

When we are able to receive life's challenges as koans rather than problems, they become interesting and exciting, rather than ponderous and depressing.

All conflict we experience in the world, is a conflict within our own selves.