When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply. When we can enter a relationship with our treasure house already open, there is no end to the wonders we can find, both within and between ourselves and another.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

When we are able to receive life's challenges as koans rather than problems, they become interesting and exciting, rather than ponderous and depressing.

When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are. We receive the space in which to bloom. This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

All the insight we will ever need to live well will come from fully being who and where we are.

All experiences are welcomed and fully digested, not judged good or bad.

We turn pain into suffering by adding on all kinds of beliefs, interpretations and judgments to it.