When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply. When we can enter a relationship with our treasure house already open, there is no end to the wonders we can find, both within and between ourselves and another.

If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.

Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

All conflict we experience in the world, is a conflict within our own selves.

Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.