A thought is harmless unless we believe it.
The pain shows you what's left to investigate.
My experience is the opposite.
When you don't believe something, you can't make yourself believe it. There's nothing you can do to believe it again. You either believe it or you don't.
When they attack you and you notice that you love them with all your heart, your Work is done.
It doesn´t come later. Everything you´re supposed to do is here right now.