Vowing, even intense vowing, is often useless. The next day comes and the next day goes. What works is making a vivid, concrete plan.

What can I learn from this? What will I do next time I'm in this situation?

It is not always people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.

It’s for you to decide whether change is right for you right now. Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t. But either way keep the growth mindset in your thoughts then when you bump up against obstacles you can turn to it, it will always be there for you showing you a path into the future.

I don’t mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel I’ve done as well as I possibly could.

Did I win? Did I lose? Those are the wrong questions. The correct question is: Did I make my best effort?” If so, he says, “You may be outscored but you will never lose.

You’re in charge of your mind. You can help it grow by using it in the right way.