If you're not sure what you want, then hold back from making plans or responding to invitations until you have a chance to think about it.

You don't want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.

I'm sure there are people who can toggle quickly from all-in caregiving to structured socializing, but I can't think of any offhand.

When people get more frustrated by their indecision than by the situation that prompted it, clarity often follows.

Make sure you have legal cover for what you're doing.

Live in the moment, this moment, your moment. That is by far and without meaningful rival The Best Position to put yourself in to discover and delight in who your children turn out to be, whoever they turn out to be.

I think a person who arranges the event and orders the food also picks up the check - even the birthday person, even when people at the table insist on paying for the birthday person.