If you're not sure what you want, then hold back from making plans or responding to invitations until you have a chance to think about it.

If you are being shuffled around, then you should feel shuffled around.

You need to make plans for your future, so plan your own future.

When people get more frustrated by their indecision than by the situation that prompted it, clarity often follows.

Some people can work amid chaos or conversations, and some can't - and while there's no doubt an element of brain wiring to it, there's also the possibility of acquiring skills that improve your focus.

Separation is where you see if it works better with the adults in two different homes.

Your parents' views are, by current standards, out there. Getting in their faces about it would be needlessly disrespectful, but there's no reason for you to tiptoe through their delusional little terrarium as if you can't bend even one blade of grass.