Most of the choices we make each day may feel like the products of well-considered decision making, but theyโre not. Theyโre habits.
Charles DuhiggI think I'm smart, and I know I was a good mom. But there wasn't a lot I could point to and say, that's why I'm special.
Charles DuhiggThe same process that makes AA so effectiveโthe power of a group to teach individuals how to believeโhappens whenever people come together to help one another change. Belief is easier when it occurs within a community.
Charles DuhiggBut countless studies have shown that a cue and a reward, on their own, aren't enough for a new habit to last. Only when your brain starts expecting the reward--craving the endorphins or sense of accomplishment--will it become automatic to lace up your jogging shoes each morning. The cue, in addition to triggering a routine, must also trigger a craving for the reward to come.
Charles Duhigg