When those closest to us respond to events differently than we do, when they seem to see the same scene as part of a different play, when they say things that we could not imagine saying in the same circumstances, the ground on which we stand seems to tremble and our footing is suddenly unsure.

Part of the reason images of women in positions of authority are marked by their gender is that the very notion of authority is associated with maleness.

False dichotomies are often at the heart of discord.

Treating people the same is not equal treatment if they are not the same.

Critiquing relieves you of the responsibility of doing integrative thinking.

Some days you just want to get dressed and go about your business. But if you're a woman, you can't, because there is no unmarked woman.

any criticism heard secondhand sounds worse than it would face to face. Words spoken out of our presence strike us as more powerful, just as people we know only by reputation seem larger than life.