We all know we are unique individuals, but we tend to see others as representatives of groups.

Treating people the same is not equal treatment if they are not the same.

We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has

Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence

Public discourse requires making an argument for a point of view, not having an argument - as in having a fight.

The one who decides who goes ahead has the upper hand, regardless of who gets to go. This is why many women do not feel empowered by such privileges as having doors held open for them. The advantage of going first through the door is less salient to them than the disadvantage of being granted the right to walk through a door by someone who is framed, by his magnanimous gesture, as the arbiter of the right-of-way.

Each person's life is lived as a series of conversations.