Replace your self-defeating thoughts with self-supporting thoughts.
It isn't love when another person cannot give you the space to live your own life.
Every emotion is keyed into some bodily location, and taken all together, they form the emotional body.
All relationships are a reflection of our relationship to ourself.
Through silence, through meditation, and through non-judgment, you will access the first law, the Law of Pure Potentiality.
The intention to live as long as possible isn't one of the mind's best intentions, because quantity isn't the same as quality.