Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self.
Harriet LernerAlthough it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.
Harriet LernerAn intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.
Harriet Lerner