Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self.

If what we are doing with our anger is not achieving the desired result, it would seem logical to try something different.

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

We'll always be disappointed if we believe that we can plan for a peak experience and make it happen. True joy can't be anticipated or planned. It just strikes.

Love alone is never a good enough reason to marry.

We commonly confuse closeness with sameness and view intimacy as the merging of two separate I's into one worldview.

Before modern feminism, stories of female ambition were silenced or erased; even now, they are told with apology ("Yes, it's a great honor to be a Nobel Prize laureate, but really, what I love best is staying home and being a mother to Kevin and Annie").