Christianity is not about morality. It's about reality.

A person who hasn't grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.

The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love

Diligence is not easy, but we can't reach our goals without it.

When a child shuts down his painful emotional side, he also loses the ability to express his joyous side. Emotions are a whole. With anger comes the ability to express delight; with sadness comes the ability to express lightheartedness. This is the breadth of emotion that allows an adult to experience intimacy with a spouse, with God, and with his children

The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.

God's solution for "I can't live that way anymore" is basically, "Good! Don't live that way anymore. Set firm limits against evil behavior that are designed to promote change and redemption. Get the love and support you need from other places to take the kind of stance that I do to help redeem relationship. Suffer long, but suffer in the right way." And when done God's way, chances are much better for redemption.