If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough.
They are bearcrawls ... a bearclaw is a donut
You need to WANT to change. You need to be willing to do the work.
You're much more likely to reach your goals if they're your goals, speaking to your desires, rather than the desires of outside influences. Goals that are meaningful to you will keep you inspired and driven towards success.
The past does not define, you the present does.
It's important to stay true to yourself. You have to know your weaknesses and recruit support when and where you need it.