I know from my own clinical work that when people are beaten and hurt, they numb out so that they cant feel anymore.

The foundation for our self-image is grounded in the first three years of life. It comes from our major caretaker's mirroring.

Children are natural Zen masters; their world is brand new in each and every moment.

To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed. The dynamic core of your human life is grounded in your feelings, needs and drives. When these are bound by shame, you are shamed to the core.

Ego is to the true self what a flashlight is to a spotlight.

It's essential to tell the truth at all times. This will reduce life's pain. Lying distorts reality. All forms of distorted thinking must be corrected.

Recovery begins with embracing our pain and taking the risk to share it with others. We do this by joining a group and talking about our pain.