Social media has a way of changing your mood. I can see a picture of my ex, and it ruins my day.
Kim StolzOne of the things that makes a social-media cleanse so difficult is that every time we log on, every notification we get is an addictive substance. It's just like any drug.
Kim StolzI'm not a fan of the selfie. I think it's at the heart of the narcissism that social media brings into our lives.
Kim StolzIf you can pinpoint the moments in social media that are really negative experiences, those are the ones you can cut out. And when you do, you recognize how much better your life is.
Kim StolzIf I'm a secure person, my online persona is going to be pretty similar to the person that I am. If I'm insecure, my online persona is probably very different from who I am in real life.
Kim StolzIf I post a selfie, and you like it, it's of little cost to you, but it feels great to me. That becomes addictive, and you see people's narcissism so quickly. I think that's a very dangerous thing for us all to be addicted to.
Kim StolzWe miss extra bits of knowledge that can add value to our lives. We sort of lack empathy because we're multitasking all the time.
Kim StolzIt becomes very difficult for us to adjust to a world without social media because we spend so much time involved with it.
Kim StolzWe get one of these little pings on our smartphones, and we get a little hit of dopamine as well. We get excited. We feel anticipation. As we feel this, we want it more and more. So we spend more and more time looking at our phones.
Kim StolzWe're all not exactly the same person online that we are in real life. I am not as happy as my Instagram makes me look. We are all heightening the positives and downplaying the negatives.
Kim StolzEach person can achieve balance by cutting a few things out and seeing how it goes. If you cut something out, and it goes well, and your life is better, you keep doing it.
Kim StolzIt's funny: I spend time in the book criticizing social media, but I'm also aware that a lot of my success is because of social media. I can broadcast myself and my work to thousands of people that are following me or my friends. I do think that social media can be good for self-promotion.
Kim Stolz