We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable, we know that isn't what we wanted. If it makes our life wonderful, we know this is a strategy which will meet out need. That's why Paul Tillich, the theologian says we need to sin courageously. You ask for what you want, hoping to meet your needs. If you get it and it makes life worse, you learn that this isn't what I want.

The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.

All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.

Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don't get resolved.

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

Never do anything that isn't play.

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.