NVC is interested in learning that is motivated by reverence for life, by a desire to learn skills, to contribute better to our own well-being and the well-being of others.

If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met.

All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

To practice NVC, it's critical for me to be able to slow down, take my time, to come from an energy I choose, the one I believe that we were meant to come from, not the one I was programmed into.

Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis.

If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can't stand pain, but make matters worse by trying to get rid of it. Put on giraffe ears. Try to hear what they are feeling and needing.