Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication.

Not getting our needs fulfilled is painful - but it's a sweet pain, not suffering, which is what comes from life-alienated thinking and interpretation.

NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.

Violence in any form is a tragic expression of our unmet needs.

At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs.

Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our words.

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.