A second even more obvious sign is that the person will stop talking. If we are uncertain as to whether we have stayed long enough in the process, we can always ask, "Is there more that you wanted to say"?

All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.

The more we talk about the past, the less we heal from it.

If the other persons behavior is not in harmony with my own needs, the more I empathize with them and their needs, the more likely I am to get me own needs met.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.

Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we have no real enemies, that what others do to us is the best possible thing they know to do to get their needs met.