A second even more obvious sign is that the person will stop talking. If we are uncertain as to whether we have stayed long enough in the process, we can always ask, "Is there more that you wanted to say"?

Anger tells us we've disconnected from life. The purpose in anger is to use it to come back to life.

The more we empathize with the other party, the safer we feel.

We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation.

What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.

Our goal is to create a quality of empathic connection that allows everyone's needs to be met.

A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life.