NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.

When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.

Always hear the 'Yes' in the 'No'.

What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.

Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, people lose their desire to attack back because they can see the human ignorance leading to these attacks; instead, their goal becomes providing the empathic connection and education that will enable them to transcend their violence and engage in cooperative relationships.

The Indian philosopher J. Krishnamurti once remarked that observing without evaluating is the highest form of human intelligence. When I first read this statement, the thought, 'What nonsense!' shot through my mind before I realized that I had just made an evaluation.

People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault.