Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we have no real enemies, that what others do to us is the best possible thing they know to do to get their needs met.

What evidence is there that we've adequately empathized with the other person? First, when an individual realizes that everything going on within has received full empathic understanding, they will experience a sense of relief. We can become aware of this phenomenon by noticing a corresponding release of tension in our own body.

People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.

Fear of corporal punishment obscures children's awareness of the compassion underlying the parent's demands.

When we are angry, killing people is too superficial.

We do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone's complete satisfaction.

Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.