Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.
Marshall B. RosenbergNatural Giving: Anything we do in life which is not out of that energy, we pay for and everybody else pays for. Anything we do to avoid punishment, everybody pays for. Everything we do for a reward, everybody pays for. Everything we do to make people like us, everybody pays for. Everything we do out of guilt, shame, duty, or obligation, everybody pays for.
Marshall B. Rosenberg