The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

Understanding and connection can transcend conflict.

Whether I praise or criticize someone's action, I imply that I am their judge, that I'm engaged in rating them or what they have done.

Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs

Clinical training in psychoanalysis has a deficit. It teaches how to sit and think about what a person is saying and how to interpret it intellectually, but not how to be fully present to this person.

Never connect yourself with the other person's pain. Just hear their need. Leave yourself out of the other person's feelings and needs.