Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer.

To be able to hear our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.

If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can't stand pain, but make matters worse by trying to get rid of it. Put on giraffe ears. Try to hear what they are feeling and needing.