Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer.

Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger.

The punitive use of force tends to generate hostility and to reinforce resistance to the very behavior we are seeking.

As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime.

I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. I developed NVC as a way to train my attention-to shine the light of consciousness-on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking.

People have been trained to criticize, insult, and otherwise communicate in ways that create distance among people.

NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.