NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.

By maintaining our attention on what's going on within others, we offer them a chance to fully explore and express their interior selves. We would stem this flow if we were to shift attention too quickly either to their request or to our own desire to express ourselves.

Once you can clearly describe what you are reacting to, free of your interpretation or evaluation of it, other people are less likely to be defensive when they hear it.

NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.

Anger tells us we've disconnected from life. The purpose in anger is to use it to come back to life.

We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation.

I try never to hear what another person thinks of me. I enjoy life a lot more when I spend as little time as possible hearing or thinking about what other people think about me. I go to the needs behind the thoughts. Then I'm in a different world.