NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.

Power-Over leads to punishment and violence. Power-With leads to compassion and understanding, and to learning motivated by reverence for life rather than fear, guilt, shame, or anger.

At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.

Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.

Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.

If we become skilled in giving ourselves empathy, we often experience in just a few seconds a natural release of energy which then enables us to be present with the other person. If this fails to happen, however, we have a couple of other choices.

A need is life seeking expression within us.