NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.
My anger tells me firstly that there's a need of mine that's not getting met.
They have most likely said it because they have an unmet need.
What bores the listener bores the speaker too.
Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.
We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.