If we want to be compassionate we must be conscious of the words we use. We must both speak and listen from the heart.

Never hear what a jackal-speaking person thinks, especially what they think about you.

Needs are the expression of life through us.

Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.

Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.

When it comes to giving advice, never do so unless you've first received a request in writing, signed by a lawyer.