Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language.

A need is life seeking expression within us.

If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request?

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you.

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

Tragically, one of the rarest commodities in our culture is empathy. People are hungry for empathy, They don't know how to ask for it.