Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis.

NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself from cultural learning that is in conflict with how I want to live my life. 2) to empower myself to connect with myself and others in a way that makes compassionate giving natural. 3) to empower myself to create structures that support compassionate giving.

When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.

At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs.

NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.

A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life.

Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.