Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren't seeing how both needs can be met. That leaves an opening. When you think in the way I'm suggesting, you'll often find a way to get most needs met simultaneously.

Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment.

Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need.

I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. I developed NVC as a way to train my attention-to shine the light of consciousness-on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking.

Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.

We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.