When you are in a jackal environment, never give them the power to submit or rebel. We want to teach this to children very early: Never lose track that you are always free to choose. Don't allow institutions to determine what you do.

Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.

People have been trained to criticize, insult, and otherwise communicate in ways that create distance among people.

In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs.

Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.