When you are in a jackal environment, never give them the power to submit or rebel. We want to teach this to children very early: Never lose track that you are always free to choose. Don't allow institutions to determine what you do.

Before we tackle the gangs and the basic story, we have to make sure that we have liberated ourselves from how we have been educated and make sure we are coming from a spirituality of our own choosing.

Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer.

The key to fostering connection in the face of a 'no' is always hearing 'yes' to something else.

You'll find people less threatening if you hear what they're needing rather than what they're thinking about you.

We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy, (b) scream nonviolently, or (c) take time out.

If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.