If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off the board. You're into the future. Empathy requires staying with the energy that's here right now. Not using any technique. Just being present. When I have really connected to this energy, it's like I wasn't there. I call this "watching the magic show". In this presence, a very precious energy works through us that can heal anything, and this relieves me from my "fix-it" tendencies.

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

We are designed for Giving

Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger.

NVC enhances inner communication by helping us translate negative internal messages into feelings and needs. Our ability to distinguish our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.

How I choose to look at any situation will greatly affect whether I have the power to change it or make matters worse.

Empathy allows us to re-perceive our world in a new way and move forward.