All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that enable us to maintain a perspective of empathy for ourselves and others, even under trying conditions.

I believe that the most joyful and intrinsic motivation human beings have for taking any action is the desire to meet our needs and the needs of others.

Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.

To practice the process of conflict resolution, we must completely abandon the goal of getting people to do what we want.

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words comes to a halt.

When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.