All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that enable us to maintain a perspective of empathy for ourselves and others, even under trying conditions.

To practice NVC, it's critical for me to be able to slow down, take my time, to come from an energy I choose, the one I believe that we were meant to come from, not the one I was programmed into.

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

Fear of punishment diminishes self-esteem and goodwill.

Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.

Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.

Anger tells us we've disconnected from life. The purpose in anger is to use it to come back to life.