When we make mistakes, we can use the process of NVC mourning and self-forgiveness to show us where we can grow instead of getting caught up in moralistic self-judgments.

NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need.

Avoid 'shoulding' on others and yourself!

What evidence is there that we've adequately empathized with the other person? First, when an individual realizes that everything going on within has received full empathic understanding, they will experience a sense of relief. We can become aware of this phenomenon by noticing a corresponding release of tension in our own body.

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

Unless we as social change agents come from a certain spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good.

Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger.