We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

An important aspect of self-compassion is to be able to empathically hold both parts of ourselves-the self that regrets a past action and the self that took the action in the first place.

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

Natural Giving: Anything we do in life which is not out of that energy, we pay for and everybody else pays for. Anything we do to avoid punishment, everybody pays for. Everything we do for a reward, everybody pays for. Everything we do to make people like us, everybody pays for. Everything we do out of guilt, shame, duty, or obligation, everybody pays for.

When people hear needs, it provokes compassion.

NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.

Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.