Unless we as social change agents come from a certain spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good.

NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.

A respectful understanding of another's experience.

A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life.

Focusing on the unmet need (not the judgment) is more likely to get the need met.

The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.

Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages the expression of appreciation solely for celebration.