Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger.

This objective of getting what we want from other people-or getting them to do what we want them to do-threatens the autonomy of people, their right to choose what they want to do. And whenever people feel that they're not free to choose what they want to do, they are likely to resist, even if they see the purpose in what we are asking and would ordinarily want to do it.

Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.

NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.

Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs

Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.

What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.