Avoid 'shoulding' on others and yourself!

The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.

Every time I mess up is a chance to practice.

A need is life seeking expression within us.

When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack.

Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren't seeing how both needs can be met. That leaves an opening. When you think in the way I'm suggesting, you'll often find a way to get most needs met simultaneously.

NVC enhances inner communication by helping us translate negative internal messages into feelings and needs. Our ability to distinguish our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.