Before we tackle the gangs and the basic story, we have to make sure that we have liberated ourselves from how we have been educated and make sure we are coming from a spirituality of our own choosing.

What bores the listener bores the speaker too.

When we listen for their feelings and needs, we no longer see people as monsters.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.

People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.

Never connect yourself with the other person's pain. Just hear their need. Leave yourself out of the other person's feelings and needs.