I try never to hear what another person thinks of me. I enjoy life a lot more when I spend as little time as possible hearing or thinking about what other people think about me. I go to the needs behind the thoughts. Then I'm in a different world.

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.

Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.

NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.

Focusing on the unmet need (not the judgment) is more likely to get the need met.

As soon as you say, "are you feeling X because I ..." Then the Jackal starts to salivate because he can educate the person that he's the cause of his pain.