As radical as it may seem, it is possible to do things only out of play. I believe that to the degree that we engage moment by moment in the playfulness of enriching life- motivated solely by the desire for its enrichment- to that degree are we being compassionate with ourselves.

We need to receive empathy to give empathy.

Fear of corporal punishment obscures children's awareness of the compassion underlying the parent's demands.

If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request?

The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

Whether I praise or criticize someone's action, I imply that I am their judge, that I'm engaged in rating them or what they have done.