If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.

Don't hate the circumstance, you may miss the blessing

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

By maintaining our attention on what's going on within others, we offer them a chance to fully explore and express their interior selves. We would stem this flow if we were to shift attention too quickly either to their request or to our own desire to express ourselves.

If we want to be compassionate we must be conscious of the words we use. We must both speak and listen from the heart.

Never connect yourself with the other person's pain. Just hear their need. Leave yourself out of the other person's feelings and needs.

Punishment is the root of violence on our planet.