Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.
Marshall B. RosenbergAlways listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us.
Marshall B. RosenbergUse the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.
Marshall B. RosenbergTwo questions help us see why we are unlikely to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What do I want this person to do that's different from what he or she is currently doing? If we ask only this first question, punishment may seem effective because the threat or exercise of punitive force may well influence the person's behavior. However, with the second question, it becomes evident that punishment isn't likely to work: What do I want this person's reasons to be for doing what I'm asking?
Marshall B. RosenbergWe are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.
Marshall B. RosenbergIn empathy, you don't speak at all. You speak with the eyes. You speak with your body. If you say any words at all, it's because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the connection with what's alive in you.
Marshall B. Rosenberg