Never do anything that isn't play.

Once you can clearly describe what you are reacting to, free of your interpretation or evaluation of it, other people are less likely to be defensive when they hear it.

Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages the expression of appreciation solely for celebration.

We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy, (b) scream nonviolently, or (c) take time out.

NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.