This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.

As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.

Nonviolent Communication is a way of keeping our consciousness tuned in moment by moment to that beauty within ourselves and others, and not saying anything that we think might in any way tarnish people's consciousness of their own beauty.

As radical as it may seem, it is possible to do things only out of play. I believe that to the degree that we engage moment by moment in the playfulness of enriching life- motivated solely by the desire for its enrichment- to that degree are we being compassionate with ourselves.

Fear of corporal punishment obscures children's awareness of the compassion underlying the parent's demands.

Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?

All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.