This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.

If the other persons behavior is not in harmony with my own needs, the more I empathize with them and their needs, the more likely I am to get me own needs met.

Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.

If we want to make meetings productive, we need to keep track of those whose requests are on the table.

Nonviolent Communication is a way of keeping our consciousness tuned in moment by moment to that beauty within ourselves and others, and not saying anything that we think might in any way tarnish people's consciousness of their own beauty.

In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.