When people hear needs, it provokes compassion.
It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.
We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.
When we have our consciousness on needs, images come to us, naturally, of how to meet those needs.
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values
When I recognize I've got anger, then I realize it's because I have a need that's not being met.